If guilt is the ‘I owe you’ feeling, then anger is the ‘you owe me’ feeling. As these debts stack up in your heart, anger begins to grow. Look at how you deal with it. It sounds so counter-intuitive. The Bible says, “be kind, tenderhearted, forgiving one another.” (see Ephesians 4:32) The way you deal with anger is through forgiveness. You need to say in your heart, this person no longer owes me. You don’t ignore the debt. You don’t say it never happened, that it does not matter, or was no big deal. You say, it did happen, it was a big deal, it mattered a lot, but you no longer owe me. You cancel the debt. When you forgive your heart is freed up to be kind again. Your heart no longer has to collect from that other person.